The ESDOLL reference authoritative society data survey shows that 2/3 of women have fantasies about sexual bondage and control! Why do women have “bound” sexual fantasies?
Remember “Fifty Shades Darker”? The story tells that the hero of the overbearing president is a lover of alphabet circles, and he happens to meet the heroine who likes to be sexually abused. They experience all kinds of sexual stimulation and abusive marriage and love life.
The work’s massive popularity reflects precisely the mass base of control:
Two-thirds of women have said they have fantasies about sexual bondage and control (and one-half of men have similar fantasies).
Most women expect to be treated “roughly” with Sexual Bondage by their loved ones within their control and safe limits. (Note that the main premise is the safety range. Men, I don’t want you to whip women or use violent women at home~)
This allows women to enjoy the sexual thrill of moving between these safe boundaries, between control and loss. So what makes women fantasize about being “tethered and controlled”?
“Bound and Controlled” Sexual Fantasies Are Just Fantasy
Women who are bound and controlled by their sexual fantasies can clearly distinguish between the control in the fantasy and the control in the real world, and in principle, the controllers in all fantasies are the objects of female sexual fantasies.
Why is “Fifty Shades Darker” an erotic movie that has swept the world? This is because the male protagonist’s domineering, arrogant, but occasionally gentle style makes women all over the world crazy. Not only is he rich, powerful, and powerful, but he also has an attractive body and face.
The reason why women can feel excited in the sexual fantasy that is bound and controlled is that in this small theater of sexual fantasy, not only is it self-directed and acted, but the plot also revolves entirely around itself, and the object of sexual fantasy must be one in ten thousand.
Some people also said that the series of novels is the book’s author E. L. James’s sexual fantasy of being bound and controlled. The male protagonist is the author’s sexual fantasy object, and the best-selling books and the film’s box office also prove that the male protagonist is the majority of women. The appearance of a controlling sexual fantasy object.
Why do women have sexual fantasies of being tied and controlled?
According to the study, 31% to 57% of women have had sexual fantasies of bondage and control, and 9% to 17% of the subjects used to like this kind of sexual fantasy.
Early psychologists believed that fantasies were equated with subconscious cravings, but this claim has long since been disproved, as stated earlier: the fantasy theater of the inner world does not equal the actual cravings of the real world.
Psychologists have sorted out several reasons why women have sexual fantasies of being tied and controlled:
Open and free sexual concept: Women who know how to enjoy sex are not bound by social and cultural impressions, can enjoy the joy brought by sexual porn without worry, and freely fantasize about various sexual plots.
Fascinate all beings’ self-confidence or desire to be needed: Women who feel sexy about themselves in heterosexual relationships will fantasize about powerful and powerful men, even men with strict and unsmiling personalities, because they are unable to resist temptation and cannot be suppressed, and use Express sexual needs more aggressively. But on the other hand, this reason is also mixed to some extent with the desire to be extremely needed and dependent.
The outlet of guilt: women who are full of guilt about sex, because of shame and anxiety, when they have sexual needs, use imaginary erotic ways to be bound and controlled to deny their desire for sex, and blame their sexual needs on those who are bound and controlled. have no choice.
Erotic BDSM Fetish porn tendencies, masochistic porn preferences: SM-preferring and masochistic erotic women tend to fantasize about being tied down, but these are rare.
Biological instinct: From the perspective of biological psychology, many males will make females surrender to fuck after courtship, so in the process of men fucking women, women will surrender to men in the process of successful sex.
Post-traumatic reactions: According to research by psychoanalyst Brett Kahr, some women who have been sexually traumatized re-master the traumatic experience by dominating their past traumatic experience, turning it into desire.
But with the continuous progress of the times, the freedom and self-confidence of women are the catalysts for this sexual fantasy.
We see in a lot of porn videos that many women express their sexuality in such a way that they are playing hard-to-play and shy about expressing their sexual desires. But in fact, recent studies have found that women who feel anxious, depressed, and guilty about sex have the lowest frequency of sexual fantasies of being bound and controlled, while women with open and free sexual concepts are the ones who have sexual fantasies and are bound. Control the majority!!
Interestingly, other studies have shown that women with higher socioeconomic status are also more likely to enjoy the sexual fantasies of being tied down, because women with higher socioeconomic status are more confident in their power and bodies, and are more willing to imagine their sexuality. Fantasy objects inevitably behave out of control at times.
It is also believed that women with higher socioeconomic status use their sexual fantasies to be tied and controlled to connect with men of equal or even higher status, and to strengthen the establishment of their socioeconomic status.
The fantasy of being tied and controlled is mysterious and unknown, and at the same time fascinating and irresistible. The sexual fantasy of being tied up and controlled is like riding a roller coaster. The excitement comes from being able to enjoy the speed of losing control and the thrill of letting it swing within a known safety range.
So, do you think you should share this fantasy with your lover?
